The antidote to despair
There are days when even getting out of bed seems like a challenge. Blame the changing season, the weather, the hormones, the full moon, the general situation you’re in, society, the earthquakes, everything and anything you can think of. But sometimes, life just gets too much.
It’s evident in the sudden explosions of anger you can’t explain, the mood swings, the constant quarrelling for no reason, the disappointment in everything, the lack of self-confidence, and courage. Positivity isn’t always easy to find, and even harder to maintain no matter how hard you try to keep that smile on.
Like Oliver Burkeman says, we find ourselves caught in a rut and the only way out is to do something, anything; reduce your goals to a series of small doable actions and focus on them one by one.
If “action is the antidote to despair” (Joan Baez), do one thing to refocus your mind on something else, something you can do, that is achievable and will make you feel better, more confident, and stronger, when it is completed.
We need to ultimately force ourselves (or trick ourselves) into doing something you keep postponing from doing; be it work, chores, hobbies, handicrafts, reading, writing, or anything that will occupy your mind from those negative thoughts that are eating you away and pinning you down.
If you devise small goals and fulfil them one by one, you’ll soon be achieving progress before you know it, and soon you’ll have done more than you initially thought was possible.
Reduce your goals to doable single tasks, but set them nonetheless.
If we can approach life in this way for a while – one task at a time, one day at a time, “you might notice something profound, which is that, in fact, this is all you ever need to do. You can make your way through life exclusively in this manner.” This “sequence of doable actions” is what leads to progress.
Give yourself little wins. Even the smallest things are important and have a value.
Take it one step at a time. That’s how we learn to walk before we run.