There is a modern saying that you haven’t tested the limits of your relationship with someone unless you try to build a closet or bookshelf with them. If you have ever bought a do-it-yourself piece of furniture, you haven’t yet realised the truth in this.
Good things take time they say. Three hours is long enough. That’s how much time it usually takes to build a closet. Because you first need to organise the what-seem-like-a-million parts, discriminate between all the different type nails and screws, find the required screwdrivers and hammer and distinguish which part belongs to which number in the instructions leaflet. The same leaflet usually says that a minimum of two people are required to assemble this piece of furniture.
It usually helps when the instructions are in a language you understand.
It also helps when you aren’t exhausted and tense from everything else that overwhelms you during that period.
But what helps above all is having patience. Because it is absolutely true that patience is a virtue. One that is also easier advised than actually had.
Cooperation is key in any joint endeavour. But communication is vital. And like everything in relationships and life, it is only when we indulge in something that we can find out how far we can go and how much we can achieve if we put our hearts and minds into it.
And if we are determined, then no matter how difficult, we will succeed.
“Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in your mind”