She stepped out of the train and slowly walked up to the escalator. For some reason she didn’t really want to rush like she always did. The thoughts had flooded her mind. Scenarios that may never be fulfilled. Wouldn’t it be great, she thought, if he was already there, waiting for her? But that wouldn’t happen. She already dismissed it from her mind. She walked out hurriedly heading towards the traffic lights, crossed the street, lost in her thoughts. And then she heard someone talking to her, a familiar voice that said “Honey, I’m calling you, but you won’t listen”. She turned and there he was, smiling as if nothing had been broken. He was there, waiting for her.
Now she was expecting the door to open and see him walking in. She turned her head every time a sound was heard, her heart beating faster. But it was always some stranger. Then the time came, the bells rang and she had to leave.
He didn’t come. And reality hit her hard.
Because things like that only happen in movies, not in real life.
The problem with setting the bar too high is that the higher up it is, the more it hurts when it falls.
It happens in an instance. Like the tremours of a violent earthquake during a vicious storm devastating everything in its passage.
As with everything in life, we all have expectations of how things will turn out to be. We dream and hope that it will all be realised in that idyllic way we have formulated in our head.
But they don’t always. Hardly ever. Rarely so.
Our expectations become illusions. Unfulfilled dreams of what could have been.
They say things happen for a reason. But you never truly get to find out what the reason is. You are only granted a glimpse of it when it no longer matters.
And your love becomes hate, but deep down it’s actually sorrow of time lost spent not being happy.
You end up disappointed when you realise that people don’t do for you what you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as yours.
We set the bars high because we want people to prove us wrong, that there can be those who care enough to try harder and persist. We raise our expectations in the hope of finding the people who will intensify their performance to meet them, who will do what best they can to make them a reality. In the end, you shouldn’t be sorry for having high standards; people who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.
“The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short, but in setting our aim too low and achieving our mark” – Michelangelo Buonarroti