We all spend certain periods pondering on everything we go through, mainly trying to realise the mistakes we make and what went wrong in dealing with them.
The biggest mistake we make is allowing people to stay in our lives far longer than they deserve.
We put up with behaviours that are toxic.
And we usually are to blame for that because we see it coming; we see them behaving perfectly one day, and then disappearing the next.
We waste time because we want to believe people change.
But the truth is, people only change if they really want to; not because you want them to.
Being nice is one thing; but we need to learn to say ‘no’,
You’ll see it’s liberating.
To set limits. To say ‘enough’ and end things. To move on and change whatever you don’t like.
We live in a society so twisted, that we’re surprised when we meet someone ‘normal’, with whom we can communicate without too much effort, who makes us laugh with witty humour, and, above all, who stays, who shows a consistency in their initial, pleasant and courteous behaviour.
It’s a shame that this is now the case. Because we sort of take all that for granted, or as common sense.
Kindness should be a given. But if you pay attention, you’ll realise that even a smile nowadays is rare. That’s why people who wear it more actually shine brighter.