How many hours do we spend worrying about things we can’t control, suffering more in imagination than in reality, drawing conclusions out of the slightest of things?
The truth is, we cause our own anxiety by the thoughts that race in our head. What if we could pace those contemplations? What if we could in some way halt them and focus our energy on something mentally healthier and more productive?
Humans are created for greatness – to do things, not be stagnant. We hold ourselves back by the constant anguish that things will go wrong.
And when the chaos becomes too much to handle we seek to escape in nature, in trails that lead to silence.
Simply to acknowledge that silence is some form of answer. Sometimes not getting what you expect is also a way of realising what you deserve, what you’re truly after, what you profoundly want. There is always a way. And there is always time. As long as there is the deep desire to find both.
Distance is a strange concept. Because technological evolution
has made it possible to feel close to people who are oceans apart from us. Yet,
sometimes, the distance that separates our minds with people who are right next
to us is often unsurmountable.
Distance is often a way to see things differently. To view
situations in another light or from another perspective. It shows us things we
don’t want to see, we ignore, or we fear of acknowledging. But it also gives us
a clearer view. People think they are the centre of the universe, yet from
space we are just a dot in a vast solar system; we are too small and insignificant
in this infinity.
In the end, it is not the kilometres that divide us, but the
emotional distance, that which makes the feeling of loneliness all the more
intense. It is said that distance is only a test to see how far love can
travel. It is what enhances patience and expectation, sometimes even
reinforcing the very feeling of love.
According to Tennessee Williams, “time is the longest
distance between two places.” Physical distance can easily be overcome. But time
We usually blame the distance for things we don’t want to do
or for situations in which we need to justify our behaviour. We curse our fate
for the difference caused in our lives by distances of all sorts. Yet, as Democritus
said, “people invented lady luck to justify their own lack of will”. It is not
distance that separates people. It is the lack of will and the silence. Because
in our modern, evolving world, where there is a will, there is a way.
It was snowing when he set foot outdoors. If it was up to
him, he wouldn’t have, but his mother forced him to go out in search of the
required groceries for lunch. He was the sort of person who always found
excuses not to do something. He would constantly say he wanted to but it was simply not possible because of a series of pretexts
he would cough up at the moment.
Procrastinating was Tommy’s expertise. But as he matured, he
found that there were things you could simply not postpone. And the less you
did, the more reliable you would become and the better status you would obtain
as a person and as a character.
But the most memorable lesson, he learnt in a cabin in the
woods that day he went off-track.
It was a wooden cabin below the snowy mountains. Adjacent
was a lake in which two magnificent swans were found. It seemed almost mythical.
He approached in hope it would offer solace from the extreme cold.
Above the front door there was a sign that read “When there’s a will there’s a way, when
there’s none there’s delay”. He
knocked on the door and waited. Then he knocked again. There was no response.
After a while, as his hands began to turn numb from the
cold, he decided to search for a back door.
There was one with an “entry”
Inside was a carpenter. One of the type he had only read
about in storybooks.
“It took you long
enough,” he told Tommy as he led him to a seat near the blaring fireplace
and offered him a cup of steaming hot tea.
“Had you figured out
the meaning of the sign sooner, your hands wouldn’t have turned so pale from
the frostbite,” the carpenter explained.
“Simply stating your
desire or intention to do something does not make it real. It’s when you act
upon it that it happens. And that is what matters. Because others can’t see
your intentions, they can only judge you by your actions”.
Tommy was beginning to understand. This meeting was not by
chance. In fact, he had never seen this cabin in this part of the valley
“Stop denying the fact
that you’re delaying things. Or simply not doing them. The time to act is now,
not later. You don’t know what will happen later on. If you can do something
now, why are you waiting? What for? There is always time to do something
important. To show others you care. If
you can act, and if you’re going to use your intention in your defence later
on, why procrastinate? If it is significant, you do it. That is what others
will see. And what matters most, is what you show”.
Tommy drank his last sip and was ready to leave.
There was nothing he could say. After all, this meeting was
not for him to speak, but to listen.
“Character is built on
the strength of your actions”, he heard the carpenter say as he waved him